改善生活的 50 个秘诀

Happiness 幸福

Success 成功

11. If you listen to successful people talk about their methods, remember that all the people who used the same methods and failed did not make videos about it.
11 .如果您听成功人士谈论他们的方法，请记住，所有使用相同方法但失败的人都没有制作有关该方法的视频。

12. The best advice is personal and comes from somebody who knows you well. Take broad-spectrum advice like this as needed, but the best way to get help is to ask honest friends who love you.
13. 最好的建议是针对个人的，来自熟悉你的人。根据需要接受此类广泛的建议，但获得帮助的最佳方法是询问爱你的诚实朋友。
14. Make accomplishing things as easy as possible. Find the easiest way to start exercising. Find the easiest way to start writing. People make things harder than they have to be and get frustrated when they can’t succeed. Try not to.
15. 让完成事情尽可能简单。找到开始锻炼的最简单方法。找到开始写作的最简单方法。人们让事情变得比他们必须的更困难，当他们不能成功时就会感到沮丧。尽量不要这样做。
16. Cultivate a reputation for being dependable. Good reputations are valuable because they’re rare (easily destroyed and hard to rebuild). You don’t have to brew the most amazing coffee if your customers know the coffee will always be hot.
17. 培养可靠的声誉。良好的声誉之所以珍贵，是因为它们很稀有（容易被摧毁，很难重建）。如果您的顾客知道咖啡永远是热的，您就不必煮出最美味的咖啡。

15. How you spend every day is how you spend your life.
15 .你怎样度过每一天，你就怎样度过一生。

Relationships 人际关系

16. In relationships look for somebody you can enjoy just hanging out near. Long-term relationships are mostly spent just chilling.
17. 在人际关系中寻找一个你可以享受在一起闲逛的人。长期的关系大多只是在寒冷中度过。
18. Don’t complain about your partner to coworkers or online. The benefits are negligible and the cost is destroying a bit of your soul.
19. 不要向同事或网上抱怨你的伴侣。好处是微不足道的，代价是摧毁你的灵魂。
20. After a breakup, cease all contact as soon as practical. The potential for drama is endless, and the potential for a good friendship is negligible. Wait a year before trying to be friends again.
21. 分手后，尽快停止所有联系。戏剧的潜力是无穷无尽的，而建立良好友谊的潜力则可以忽略不计。等一年再尝试再次成为朋友。

19. When dating, de-emphasizing your quirks will lead to 90% of people thinking you’re kind of alright. Emphasizing your quirks will lead to 10% of people thinking you’re fascinating and fun. Those are the people interested in dating you. Aim for them.
19 .约会时，淡化你的怪癖会让 90% 的人认为你还不错。强调你的怪癖会让 10% 的人认为你迷人且有趣。这些人有兴趣和你约会。瞄准他们。

20. There are two red flags to avoid almost all dangerous people: 1. The perpetually aggrieved ; 2. The angry.
21. 几乎所有危险人物都有两个危险信号需要避开： 1. 永远受委屈的人； 2. 永远受委屈的人； 2. 生气的人。
22. Those who generate anxiety in you and promise that they have the solution are grifters. See: politicians, marketers, new masculinity gurus, etc. Avoid these.
    21.那些让你感到焦虑并承诺他们有解决办法的人都是骗子。请参阅：政客、营销人员、新男性气概大师等。避免这些。

Body 身体

22. The 20-20-20 rule: Every 20 minutes of screenwork, look at a spot 20 feet away for 20 seconds. This will reduce eye strain and is easy to remember (or program reminders for).
23. 20-20-20 规则：每 20 分钟的屏幕工作，注视 20 英尺外的一个地点 20 秒。这将减轻眼睛疲劳并且易于记住（或设置提醒）。

23. Exercise is the most important lifestyle intervention you can do. Even the bare minimum (15 minutes a week) has a huge impact. Start small.
23 .锻炼是您可以采取的最重要的生活方式干预措施。即使是最低限度（每周 15 分钟）也会产生巨大的影响。从小处开始。

24. Phones have gotten heavier in the last decade and they’re actually pretty hard on your wrists! Use a computer when it’s an alternative or try to at least prop up your phone.
25. 在过去的十年里，手机变得越来越重，实际上它们对你的手腕来说非常困难！如果可以的话，请使用计算机，或者至少尝试支撑您的手机。

Productivity 生产率

25. Learn keyboard shortcuts. They’re easy to learn and you’ll get tasks done faster and easier.
    25.学习键盘快捷键。它们很容易学习，您将更快、更轻松地完成任务。
26. Keep your desk and workspace bare. Treat every object as an imposition upon your attention, because it is. A workspace is not a place for storing things. It is a place for accomplishing things.
    26.保持你的办公桌和工作空间空旷。将每一个物体都视为对你注意力的强加，因为它确实如此。工作空间不是存放东西的地方。这是一个完成事情的地方。
27. Reward yourself after completing challenges, even badly.
28. 完成挑战后奖励自己，即使是很糟糕的奖励。

Rationality 理性

28. Noticing biases in others is easy, noticing biases in yourself is hard. However, it has a much higher pay-off.
28 .注意到别人的偏见很容易，注意到自己的偏见却很困难。然而，它的回报要高得多。

29. Explaining problems is good. Often in the process of laying out a problem, a solution will present itself.
29 .解释问题很好。通常，在提出问题的过程中，解决方案就会自然出现。

30. Selfish people should listen to advice to be more selfless, selfless people should listen to advice to be more selfish. This applies to many things. Whenever you receive advice, consider its opposite as well. You might be filtering out the advice you need most.
30 .自私的人应该听建议变得更无私，无私的人应该听建议变得更自私。这适用于很多事情。每当你收到建议时，也要考虑它的反面。您可能会过滤掉您最需要的建议。

Compassion 同情

31.Call your parents when you think of them, tell your friends when you love them.
31.想念父母时给他们打电话，爱朋友时告诉他们。

32. Compliment people more. Many people have trouble thinking of themselves as smart, or pretty, or kind, unless told by someone else. You can help them out.
    32.多赞美别人。许多人很难认为自己聪明、漂亮或善良，除非是别人告诉的。你可以帮助他们。
33. Don’t punish people for trying. You teach them to not try with you. Punishing includes whining that it took them so long, that they did it badly, or that others have done it better.
    33.不要因为人们的尝试而惩罚他们。你教他们不要和你一起尝试。惩罚包括抱怨他们花了这么长时间，他们做得不好，或者其他人做得更好。

34.Don't punish people for admitting they were wrong, you make it harder for them to improve.
34.不要惩罚那些承认自己错误的人，你会让他们更难进步。

35. In general, you will look for excuses to not be kind to people. Resist these.
36. 一般来说，你会寻找借口不善待他人。抵制这些。

Possessions 财产

36. Things you use for a significant fraction of your life (bed: 1/3rd, office-chair: 1/4th) are worth investing in.
36 .您一生中很大一部分时间使用的物品（床：1/3，办公椅：1/4）值得投资。

37. “Where is the good knife?” If you’re looking for your good X, you have bad Xs. Throw those out.
    37.“好刀在哪里？”如果你正在寻找好的X，那么你就会有坏的X。把那些扔掉。
38. If your work is done on a computer, get a second monitor. Less time navigating between windows means more time for thinking.
39. 如果你的工作是在电脑上完成的，那就买第二台显示器。减少在窗口之间导航的时间意味着有更多的时间思考。
40. Establish clear rules about when to throw out old junk. Once clear rules are established, junk will probably cease to be a problem. This is because any rule would be superior to our implicit rules (“keep this broken stereo for five years in case I learn how to fix it”).
41. 制定关于何时扔掉旧垃圾的明确规则。一旦制定了明确的规则，垃圾可能将不再是一个问题。这是因为任何规则都优于我们的隐含规则（“将这个损坏的立体声音响保留五年，以防我学会如何修复它”）。
42. When buying things, time and money trade-off against each other. If you’re low on money, take more time to find deals. If you’re low on time, stop looking for great deals and just buy things quickly online.
    40.买东西时，时间和金钱是相互权衡的。如果您缺钱，请花更多时间寻找优惠。如果您时间不够，请停止寻找超值优惠，只需在网上快速购买即可。

Self 自己

41. Deficiencies do not make you special. The older you get, the more your inability to cook will be a red flag for people.
42. 缺陷并不会让你变得特别。你年纪越大，你不会做饭对人们来说就越是一个危险信号。
43. If you’re under 90, try things.
44. 如果你还不到90岁，就尝试一些事情。

43. Things that aren’t your fault can still be your responsibility.
43 .不是你的错的事情仍然可能是你的责任。

44. Defining yourself by your suffering is an effective way to keep suffering forever (ex. incels, trauma).
44 .通过痛苦来定义自己是永远承受痛苦的有效方法（例如非自愿者、创伤）。

45. Keep your identity small. “I’m not the kind of person who does things like that” is not an explanation, it’s a trap. It prevents nerds from working out and men from dancing.
    45.保持你的身份小。 “我不是那种会做那种事的人”不是解释，而是陷阱。它阻止书呆子锻炼和男人跳舞。
46. Don’t confuse ‘doing a thing because I like it’ with ‘doing a thing because I want to be seen as the sort of person who does such things’.
47. 不要将“因为喜欢而做一件事”与“因为我想被视为做这种事的人而做某事”混为一谈。

47. Remember that you are dying.
47 .记住你快要死了。

48. Personal epiphanies feel great, but they fade within weeks. Upon having an epiphany, make a plan and start actually changing behavior.
48 .个人的顿悟感觉很棒，但几周后就会消失。顿悟后，制定计划并开始实际改变行为。

Others 其他的

49. In choosing between living with 0-1 people vs 2 or more people, remember that ascertaining responsibility will no longer be instantaneous with more than one roommate (“whose dishes are these?”).
50. 在与 0-1 人同住还是与 2 人或更多人同住之间进行选择时，请记住，与超过一名室友一起居住时将不再能够立即确定责任（“这些是谁的菜？”）。
51. When you ask people, “What’s your favorite book / movie / band?” and they stumble, ask them instead what book / movie / band they’re currently enjoying most. They’ll almost always have one and be able to talk about it.
    50.当你问别人“你最喜欢的书/电影/乐队是什么？”他们结结巴巴地问他们目前最喜欢什么书/电影/乐队。他们几乎总是有一个并且能够谈论它。